To Listen better is an important skill that without it you can fail in loving with someone or fail to make a deal in a business or fail in a year in your college and it's also important for negotiation, so if you learned how to listen from this article it will make you succeed in different areas in life.
The reason you don’t listen during a conversation or a negotiation is mainly psychological, you always want to talk not to listen to bad news. (Know more about negotiation skills)
One of the things that can show that you are a good listener, is to repeat some words from what you just heard and continue what you are saying, like someone is telling you "I played today soccer and scored 2 goals" you reply "2 goals, then you are a good player", one of the things that destroy good listening is to say the phrase "yes, but.." like replying saying "2 goals is good, but 3 is a hatric"
Many people who talk when their place is to listen, is out of nervousness and less in self confidence.
How to listen better
Your energy flow from your body through your eyes, your voice, hands, feet or body; it's better to let energy flow from your eyes better that your voice, leaning forward releasing energy through your eyes and listening harder is better than talking too much. Anxiety and nervousness come from flying thoughts in your mind, there are many thoughts you are thinking about, which make you distracted from the interviewer, this lead you to look away round the place, which is bad listening, keep focusing your eye contact to the interviewer.
Flying thoughts make your hand fidget and moves nervously, sit on your hands if it takes not to move it nervously.
Also your feet may tap too, this tap dance is really irritating, instead press your feet hard against the floor that will take all the energy flowing from your feet.
Flying thoughts can make you cross your hands too which will show that you are very unreceptive.
Your voice maybe too soft or too loud, make it at a middle rate and don’t talk until this flying thoughts relax, say short sentences and short words.
Be aware of how you listen when anyone talks, try not thinking of anything when someone is talking to you and leave 2 seconds after he finish to see what will you say, say something that he just said and continue talking, don’t worry you will find what you can say more accurately than thinking about the reply while she is talking.
A preconception may destroy listening to someone, it doesn’t mean that your opponent did something which is not acceptable for you, or means that you should judge her, judging someone prevent you from listening in a good way.
not expecting value in others
Not expecting value in others make your listening not that good, you should expect value in any contribution in a negotiation.
If you have something in hand, ask your opponent that you want to finish what's in your hand before the conversation, most people appreciate this.
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