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What is my biggest failure and what i learnt from it
What is my biggest failure and what i learnt from it. who didn't fail before? who didn't fail in school, college and in life before? failure is your way to succeed, me too i did fail once, twice and trice before i did it and succeed, read my story...
What is my biggest failure and what i learnt from it
When i was a kid i was an excellent student, i used to focus in the class and write everything the teacher write on the board.
i never failed in my primary school but i have had average marks, after my sisters finished their school my family decided to travel to another country to finish their university years and at that time, i have just finished my primary school, i went with my family to the other country and joined a school there.
i remember i was a new confident student that was genuine in his way of thinking; as i was in a British medium school in my primary school, i used to talk openly without fear of any criticism that my new friends in my new school were feared of because the new country i went to have some constrains that's why my new friends was always afraid of criticism.
being in a new country, and in a new environment, i was confused by their way of thinking and i think they shared the same reaction towards me, although there were great differences between me and them in the way of thinking, they liked to be around me.
i used to be genuine as i said, not to like what they like, and like things they don't like, for instance they used to judge on some of the pupils in our class that they are bad pupils and from lower standard but i refused such judgement and used to make a friend of them, they accept it for a short while but then they started convincing me that they are not that much, and that i should leave them soon because they may make me bad too.
i felt they never think out of the box, they feared alot of things and have no attitude towards doing things their way, they used to follow each others steps, but i always wondered about their lives, why was it so sealed? i knew it afterwards...
we used to be a big group of 8, hang out with each others, go to each others homes and make a soccer team at the school's P.T. class.
one day there was a birthday party in one if our friend's home, we danced and danced.
another day we were standing out of the school after school as usual, when one of my friends started accusing me that i betrayed him through his sisters, and it seems that he convinced all the group about this thing, and at once i lost all my school friends at my last year of school!
i don't consider this a failure because i was oppressed by such thing, but i tried several times to be a friend of them but it seems everyone else (except one) was afraid of the same betrayal thing that i know nothing about it.
except one, this one was a loyal friend that didn't have sisters, maybe this was the thing that made him not to be afraid of the same thing they are afraid of, but anyways he is good to me till now if we see each others and i can't change my opinion about him.
i learnt many things from this experience (losing all my friends at once at the last year of school), i learnt that jealousy can destroy everything, because nothing except jealousy and misunderstanding that lead to such thing, i also learnt not to make friendship based on fake attractiveness, friendship should be based on equal efficiencies and on complementary traits for each others not on a party that wants everything not to give anything.
i got on my last years of school 90% and 97% which leads to 93.5% total grades, and i think that this is a great grades that maybe only one got such marks!!, and that was a great success for me :)
i entered engineering faculty, and the first year was continuous to what i took at last years at school, so i was familiar with it.
in my first term i got 85.2% grades which is among 1500 students i was from the first 10 which is also a great record, i passed the year, i entered communication department the next year which was a total new year for me and which was the best department over all departments in my engineering faculty, with doctors that i didn't understand anything from them, and this year i failed, i was shocked, astonished and depressed knowing the results but this didn't make me stop and return back or drop out of college, but this made me know friends with the same problem and we used to make fun of it.
knowing friends with the same problem and talking about your problem ease the complexity of the problem to make you think more openly and to let you fight even harder.
i passed the next year but i learnt alot from this repeated year, i saw how failure brings more failure, and let you know colleagues that are careless, helpless and without any goals at all, also i learned that losing your vision may lead you to a total destruction for your whole life.
i compared between people who have a vision to become T.A.s and the ones that only want to pass the year without any thing more, this makes me think more about the vision thing, because i used to have a vision at the school time, and have had great results.
i lost having vision, because who fail once at the college can't be a T.A. or it's hard for him to be one, and this was the rules in my college, but i refused such thing, my vision was to be a good student with good grades after that which wasn't a good vision, it's like i didn't have the time to sit with myself and configure my mind to have a good vision, which i know afterwards is a big mistake!
this was my biggest failure, when you fail to put a vision for your self and for your life, you live a steady life with no ups and downs if not a failure life, in short if you fail to plan you plan to fail.
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What is my biggest failure and what i learnt from it. you should always have time to put a vision for yourself, for your life and to have short term and a long term vision for your life. this way you are on the right track and you will be a successful student, worker and whatever you are.
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I managed to have great success in school time, i got 93% in grade 9, 90% in grade 11 and 97% in grade 12 which are all turning years to the next period of my school life, if you want to know how i did it, read my book 3 hours (your exams guide) :)
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